How To Be The Best Wedding Toaster Ever On The Planet

And Even Look Forward To Those Moments With Enthusiasm!

There you are. All eyes are on you. It’s toasting time at the wedding and you are ready to deliver the best wedding toast ever seen or heard.

Or, there you are. Winging it, one too many drinks and ready to deliver the worst wedding toast ever known to all of humanity.

How do you to get to be in the first scenario? Here are some secrets . . .

1. Be You. 

Not some Googled-off- the-Internet toast. Say what you feel. It’s ok.

2. Follow This Simple And Short Plan:

a. Opener / 1 min. max.

b. Body of Toast / 2-4 min. max.

c. Closing / 1 min. max.

I promise, that’s all. Truly. Keep it short. It’s a toast, not a keynote address.

3. Keep The Focus On The Couple

It’s not about you. You are there to highlight, raise a glass and congratulate them.

4. Never Say, “I’m Soooo Nervous.”

Really. Why? See #3 above.

5. Do Not Curse, Swear Or Use Any Form Of Raunchy Vulgarities.

Yes, believe it or not, this needs to be in this blog’s list. Besides, as classy as you may usually be, what happens when you might be nervous or slightly tipsy . . . or both? Trust this – keep it family-friendly or you WILL REGRET IT!

6. Address Both The Bride & Groom

Whether you are a Hatfield or a McCoy, both in this union get your blessings and good wishes. While you are at it . . . look at the parents, family and guests when speaking.

7. Avoid An Open Mike Being Passed Around

This is an invitation to enormously embarrassing gaffes from comments intended to not be heard. Come to the front of the gathering or head table like the capable adult you are and address everyone.

8. Funny = AOK . . . Humiliating Or Embarrassing = Not AOK

Again, this is a Toast to honor and bestow your most genuinely loving and warm wishes to the wedding couple. It is not a roast. So save the inside jokes and tales of past loves for another time.

9. Practice. Then Practice Again.

Practice means you say it out loud more than once the night before. Practice means using a mirror or your iPhone video to see for yourself how you look and sound. Practice means you will be thinking about this toast way before the actual ceremony.

10. Write It Down.

Nobody cares if it’s not memorized. They came to hear what you personally have to say about the wedding couple. Use index cards to keep it easy to hold and less noisy than paper. Print big. Avoid a full script and use bullet points, key words or a simple outline (remember #2?) to keep it genuine and real.

11. Speak From Your Heart.

Your toast is an honor to give. You are among friends and family who may be thinking and feeling something similar. You get to say it.

If you remember this, all will be fine.


Linda Ross

Professional Public Speaking & Presentations Coach, Superb Speaking Skills, LLC